The world even tries to redefine marriage. This has had many ripple effects on our cultural habits.
Because Marriage is being redefined, so is dating... shocker! Makes sense though right? Today we analyzed some cool things about dating.
So many people say dating is dead. Now a days everyone is just hanging out. I am like this, I love just chillin and flying by the seat of my pants. Is just hanging out bad? What is the difference between just hanging out and actually dating? Do you care? How is dating being redefined and how does it effect your dating experience?
Here are some really good SHORT articles. I wouldn't put them on here if they weren't worth reading! Read em!
Hanging Out Hooking up and Celestial Marriage by Bruce A. Chadwick
Here are Brother Williams 3 P's of dating
Planned: Planned ahead of time. (Not EVERY single time, we all love spontaneity, but more than not)
Paid for: Doesn't have to cost a lot of money, but costs are taken care of
Paired off: You know who you are with, and they are your focus for that time.
Now here's a cool connection...In The Family Proclamation to the World, it states the roles of a husband are to...
Provide
Preside
Protect
What correlation can you see between each set of the three P's?
We have a natural need to feel taken care of, safe, and wanted. During exclusive dating, it is important to feel reaffirmed in these areas. It is good to see your special someone in all types of situations, good and bad, over a period of time. You learn things about someone when you see how they react to a variety of circumstances. Although no one is perfect, you learn how to handle things together. If you feel alone, or like you are carrying the bulk of the relationship... time for readjustment my friend. Remember, it shouldn't even just be 50/50. You should both be putting in 100%.
Here's another common controversy. If it's important not to pair off in an exclusive relationship too early, why do we label people as "players" when they take lots of people out at the same time? This brings us to the law of "Attachment" There are 5 axis in attachment.
Know Trust Rely Commit Touch
There needs to be a balance on all of these axis. From what I've seen in relationships, once they rely on one person to be who they spend all their time with, the level of commitment goes up. Or if your have a lot of physical contact with someone, you feel more attached, but maybe you are not committed to each other. So if you are focusing on the physical part of the relationship, yet you are lacking in commitment, the trust and reliance then run low, this can lead to a rocky road!
Don't feel like a player if you want to take lots of people out to find who is right for you! But build up the important things first. Find people who catch your attention and have fun getting to know them. Attractiveness only lasts a few weeks after you find out you don't have anything in common, or you can't stand their personality. If you don't want to commit to one relationship, don't go on dates and make out and drop people. As T-swift says "Players gonna play play play play play, and haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate." Don't give the haters a reason to hate! Date right.
When you find someone who you want to be with, use the three T's.
Togetherness ( have a variety of activities)
Talk (REALLY TALK)
Time
What does Love mean? There are different levels and definitions of love. To me love is when you put someone else before yourself, because making them happy makes you happy. One of my close friends told me this when I asked him how he knew he wanted to marry his girl. "I always wanted to be with her, and if I wasn't with her I wouldn't to be doing something for her." There ya have it folks, true, selfless love.
I would love to hear thoughts, and theories if you don't agree with some of this!
If you don't want to post on the blog for the public, messaging me works great too.:)
Here are some really good SHORT articles. I wouldn't put them on here if they weren't worth reading! Read em!
Hanging Out Hooking up and Celestial Marriage by Bruce A. Chadwick
Here are Brother Williams 3 P's of dating
Planned: Planned ahead of time. (Not EVERY single time, we all love spontaneity, but more than not)
Paid for: Doesn't have to cost a lot of money, but costs are taken care of
Paired off: You know who you are with, and they are your focus for that time.
Now here's a cool connection...In The Family Proclamation to the World, it states the roles of a husband are to...
Provide
Preside
Protect
What correlation can you see between each set of the three P's?
We have a natural need to feel taken care of, safe, and wanted. During exclusive dating, it is important to feel reaffirmed in these areas. It is good to see your special someone in all types of situations, good and bad, over a period of time. You learn things about someone when you see how they react to a variety of circumstances. Although no one is perfect, you learn how to handle things together. If you feel alone, or like you are carrying the bulk of the relationship... time for readjustment my friend. Remember, it shouldn't even just be 50/50. You should both be putting in 100%.
Here's another common controversy. If it's important not to pair off in an exclusive relationship too early, why do we label people as "players" when they take lots of people out at the same time? This brings us to the law of "Attachment" There are 5 axis in attachment.
Know Trust Rely Commit Touch
There needs to be a balance on all of these axis. From what I've seen in relationships, once they rely on one person to be who they spend all their time with, the level of commitment goes up. Or if your have a lot of physical contact with someone, you feel more attached, but maybe you are not committed to each other. So if you are focusing on the physical part of the relationship, yet you are lacking in commitment, the trust and reliance then run low, this can lead to a rocky road!
Don't feel like a player if you want to take lots of people out to find who is right for you! But build up the important things first. Find people who catch your attention and have fun getting to know them. Attractiveness only lasts a few weeks after you find out you don't have anything in common, or you can't stand their personality. If you don't want to commit to one relationship, don't go on dates and make out and drop people. As T-swift says "Players gonna play play play play play, and haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate." Don't give the haters a reason to hate! Date right.
When you find someone who you want to be with, use the three T's.
Togetherness ( have a variety of activities)
Talk (REALLY TALK)
Time
What does Love mean? There are different levels and definitions of love. To me love is when you put someone else before yourself, because making them happy makes you happy. One of my close friends told me this when I asked him how he knew he wanted to marry his girl. "I always wanted to be with her, and if I wasn't with her I wouldn't to be doing something for her." There ya have it folks, true, selfless love.
I would love to hear thoughts, and theories if you don't agree with some of this!
If you don't want to post on the blog for the public, messaging me works great too.:)
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