Love

Love. A word that can mean many different things.

As I lived in Sweden for 18 months I realized each culture uses love differently. 

I found it hard to express the difference when I liked something and when I REALLY liked something. In American I was able to say "I liked that!" or "OMG I LOVE THAT!" 

Take Greek for instance. In the Greek language they have four different uses of the word love. 

Storge: Describes the love of that between a parent and child. 

Phillia: The love shared by friendship.

Eros: Love between a man and a woman. 

Agape: Acting on the well being of someone else. (Charity or pure love of Christ)

While discussing this in class our instructor asked us: "Which definition of love is THEE most important in marriage?"

As you might consider also, this is hard to answer! We decided you need all of them! It is a combination of all of these. Storge, being one they can rely and depend on to feel secure. Phillia, everyone hopes to marry their best friend. Eros, passion, excitement, all of those feelings they stir up in you. The butterflies, the physical and emotional attraction and nearness to them. Agape, putting them before yourself, in every aspect. 

The need for love is in all of us. It is literally in us. It is beautiful! I really do believe that all of these are included in true love. 

While preparing for marriage, be open with your partner about this. Communication REALLY is key. Have your parents told you that? What does good communication look like?

-Plan for future conflicts together. (readiness)

-Discuss agreements and disagreements. 

-Feel comfortable talking about everything! Nothing should be awkward when you have good communication. 

-Compromise is good, consensus is best. 

-Talk about your dreams and hopes and desires for the future. 

-Listen, and HEAR each other. Each party should be equal participates in both talking and listening.

Love is many things, it is true happiness, and it is not a race. Enjoy the ride!